There is an old song from years ago that I have always loved, “Young at Heart”.

Frank Sinatra made the song famous but I love Michael Buble’s updated version.  I have attached the song below, if you have never heard it!

The song came to mind recently while I was waiting for a prescription at the pharmacy section of my local grocery store.

As I waited, two older women, carts in tow, started talking, and from their conversation I gathered they had gone to school together at some point in their lives.

I was struck at the difference in the two, one seemed filled with joy, smiling, laughing so many times during their conversation, and she had on really cute sneakers too!  The other one just the opposite, grumpy, negative, she just seemed so unhappy.

Granted I don’t know what is going on in their lives, or what hardships they are facing, financial, health, or maybe loneliness, but as an older woman myself, I want to always try to be “Young at Heart”.

There was a quote posted on a sign at our area amusement park, Coney Island, in Cincinnati, that I have always loved,

We do not stop playing because we grow old;

We grow old because we stop playing.

So true, don’t you think?

When we age there are many ways that can help us stay youthful:

• Be physically active
• Stay up with the world, especially “tech things”
• Learn something new every single day
• Get a regular hair cut and color
• Develop a glass-half-full attitude
• Change your style of dress and color
• Be with younger people when you can
• Sing and dance
• Be positive
• Dream
• Smile, frowning instantly ages us
• Love

I believe being “Young at Heart” is a way of life that is active, loving, a feeling of hope everyday, without the regrets of the past hanging over our heads, living life to it’s fullest, with a grateful heart, facing all that living brings.

Being “Young at Heart” is part of me and loving my life, I hope yours too!

This winter we have had very little snow in our area, actually only one that called for the snow shovel.

The first one is always special for my little family,

When the snow falls and the cold comes, me and my son will always put in a request for my husband’s hot cocoa.

It is a simple recipe, just one of those very large Hershey bars, and milk. 

That’s it, but it is yummy, with that Hershey bar chocolate taste.

Just melt the chocolate bar and add the milk, stirring until hot.

Don’t forget to top with marshmallows or whip cream.

I have shared my husband’s illness with all of you before, he has progressive Multiple Sclerosis. The disease is really hitting is legs and balance, and now I see issues with the use of his hands.  He has trouble holding utensils and drops his fork on a regular basis at the dinner table.

When we requested he make us “his” hot cocoa he hesitated, but did not want to disappoint us.   Taking his time he completed our request and seemed pleased that he could do that something we hold as a special winter treat.

I always want him to feel useful and needed in our daily lives.

What a special, “sweet” gift to us, a cup of hot cocoa made with love!

Doing difficult tasks with love really does help us all appreciate the simple joys we sometimes take for granted.

I am so very proud of the way he fights every single day not giving in to this devastating disease.

As I have mentioned before, my prayer is that if God has a reason not to cure him, please do not let him deteriorate more.

Love to all.

I suppose I should have titled this post, “When Dreams Come True, But Don’t Last”.

This is the sweet sign which hung over the front door of a little shop I once owned, but in the long run was not meant to be.

When I was working on my never ending garage cleaning one afternoon, I found my sign all wrapped up and stored in a safe place.

I am sad when thinking of my shop, it was really special, handmade items. country type furniture, collectibles, prints, pottery, candles, everything popular at the time.

My shop was in a tourist area, Waynesville, Ohio.

Waynesville is an antiques town, but shops like mine added the extra touch needed to appeal to all folks visiting.

I remember that first day, we had a line of customers waiting to pay.

So many compliments, and so many returning customers, who became new friends.

Of course, it was work, filling the store with new things was a must.  No one wants to visit a shop with nothing new!

I was fortunate enough to have some exclusive wholesale items, sold only at my shop, and some very talented loyal crafters as well.

But as life goes, this dear, sweet dream of mine ended when my husband’s sickness caused him not to be able to work on a consistent basis, generating the income we needed to live.

Eventually shop money had to be used for everyday living.

I held on as long as I could, but was digging myself a hole, with debt and stress.

The day came when I just had to let go.

I can’t bring myself to get rid of the sign, I know this dream of mine will never happen again, but I at least have the memories of what it was and what it could have been.

There is no bitterness in my heart and I do not feel like I failed.

Life just gives all of us these kinds of ups and downs, but life goes on and it is worth living.

Blessings to all.

Don’t give up on your dreams.

We live in an older neighborhood and we have many very large trees in our yard.  This time of year that means raking leaves, lots of leaves.

My son helped me this past weekend with this overwhelming chore!

Again, I thank God for him every single day!

As we were raking, Jim stopped and said to me, “Mom, do you remember the day we spent with Grandma collecting leaves for my 5th grade school project”.

I do remember that beautiful fall Saturday morning when we picked my Mom up and headed to an absolutely beautiful icon in Cincinnati, Spring Grove Cemetery.

Serving as a living horticultural laboratory, Spring Grove’s Arboretum boasts a remarkable 1,200 species with over 1,000 labeled.  The labeling of the trees really helped Jimmy with identifying the leaves.

Jimmy collected the leaves, mom secured each one, and I helped with the documenting.

His favorite find was the leaf from the Ginko tree.  He was sure not all the kids in his class would have a Ginko leaf!

We enjoyed a really spectacular day together, and we shared what is now a beautiful memory.

I was so pleased and touched that my now grown son remembered the day we spent with his loving Grandma.  It was special moment for us to share.

Making these kinds of memories with your loved ones are so important to living and loving life.  This memory didn’t require money or anything fancy, it was a simple day worth so much, especially all these years later.

Make joyful, loving memories with those in your life today.

Oh, Jimmy received an A+++ on the project and his teacher, Miss Berberich, said it was the best leaf project she had seen!

One of the most important things I have learned and worked on over the past few years is forgiving and asking to be forgiven.

Forgiving someone who has hurt you is really a hard thing to do, but you must for your own peace and joy.

I can write about the time I jumped all over a sweet girl at the drive thru coffee line, waiting 12 minutes for a “quick” cup of coffee on my way to work, only to realize that I was wrong and apologized the next day.  This young dear person accepted my apology and eventually we established a friendship, but the example I want to write about is about my Mother.

Days before my loving Mother passed away from breast cancer, as I sat by her bedside alone with her at the time, with tears in her eyes, she whispered to me “forgive me, I am so sorry for…”.

Years ago she thought that I had done something really bad, but the truth was I had not.

I never thought again about the incident after it was sorted out, but obviously my Mom did and she wanted me to know before she passed that she was sorry.

It is so hard for me to write this without crying. This was something my Mom needed to tell me before she left this world.  I will never forget this moment with my Mom, and again as with many times in my life, in those last hours of her life before she lost consciousness, I learned from her.

Forgiving and asking for forgiveness is so important and something we all should learn to do in this life of ours.

Love and blessings.

Love your life, every single moment.

Blessings, and love.

Prayers and courage for Brittany.

When we are born God has already picked the family we are going to belong to!

Families are not perfect.  No one can pick a family like we can pick our friends.

Our family is the one place we all should fit in no matter what we have done, or how we look, or what we have in this world.  Families should stick by each other, unite in troubled times.

I know there are times we hurt one another and make each other cry, but we forgive and forget.  We forgive each other over and over,  we are all weak, we all make horrible mistakes.

In the darkest moments of my life my family was there for me, not judging, but just helping and loving.  Uniting around my problems.

The younger members of our family may turn to others for help but will soon learn, as I did, that only your family will truly be there for you!

I am working hard on reconnecting with each of my family members, making up for the lost years when we all let go of each other.

Our family is small and my hope is that we all can reconnect.  I cannot be really happy without my family, all of them.

The holidays are coming, reconnect with the family God wanted you to be part of,

just love them!

This past week we had several dark, cold, wet days which made me realize how much I love sunshine.

Nothing lifts my spirit more than going outside in the morning with my coffee, walking around my home letting the sun shine on me!  It is like medicine!

Sugar maple tree in my front yard, and sun shining on the burning bushes around our home.

Our little stray cat “Blackie” always walks with me and enjoys the sun.  I reached down to give her a pat and she was so warm.

Enjoy some sun today and everyday it shines in your area, it really does warm us and calms us on those terrible dark days we all face in our lives.

Love your day, let the sun shine!

Loving our life can at times be so difficult.  I have come so far on my journey but this one is so hard for me to put away.

Our family is dealing with a heartbreak.

This is a photo of my son and his fiancee at the time it was taken.

All of you know from my posts, how good, kind, and decent, this wonderful human being, my son, is to everyone.

Jim and Cheryl were together for years and finally engaged.  They were in some way or another friends from junior high school. Cheryl and her family lived across the street from us.

They both had people come and go in their lives over the years, Cheryl even having a baby daughter from one of her relationships, but there came a time when they got together and committed to one another.

Jim loved Cheryl and her daughter Christina so much.  He worked hard and made plans for the future, saving every dime for Christina’s education and a home for his new family.

Their dating time together was not normal, Cheryl lived with her parents and both were sick.  Jim stood side by side with Cheryl through the death or her father, and helping with the care of her mother through a long illness before her death.  So much of their lives flew by during these times.

It was then that something happened that we never expected.  Cheryl started communicating with an old friend on Facebook, and eventually started a relationship with him on the side.

Jim saw the signs and eventually Cheryl admitted the affair.

Our heartbreak began.  Jim was devastated, and we all were stunned.

What we all thought was our future family, including a grandchild, was not to be.

Overwhelming sadness took over our lives.

Cheryl has moved on, but Jim is struggling.

When he was small it was easy for me to comfort him, and protect him from the things of life, but this one is hard, he is a grown man and must sort this out for himself.  How could I have prepared him for something like this.  Betrayal from someone you loved.

I pray for him, and know that God must have something, or someone, planned for his future.

These are the things we all must deal with in life, and with faith overcome in time.

I see signs of happiness and peace slowly coming back to my son and his life.  He laughs more and more each day.

Life is good, and I believe he will love his once again.

Blessings.

So much of my love of life involves music, and the joys it brings to me everyday.

I love soulful music, songs about life, love and its heartbreaks, all the ups and downs of living.

Everyday tasks go buy so fast when listening to songs we love, it can change our mood in an instant, calm us, make us smile, and of course it can bring about some “loving sad” from memories of certain songs.

Love so many old gospel songs, probably because of those old memories of my mom and her sisters singing while doing the dishes after a family gathering.

I could list so many of my favorites, “Love Hurts” by the Everly Brothers, popular when I was a preteen, Ray Charles, Norah Jones, the sad songs from Johnny Cash, later in his career.

“Stand” by Donny McClurkin, is one of my go to songs when life throws me a really bad thing,  and I can’t forget Beth Hart.

Have you ever heard Beth Hart sing, “I’d Rather Go Blind”?  Love it!  If you have time watch the video at the end of this post.

Instead of listening to talk radio, or all the bad news of the day, I always would listen to my favorite CD’s  on the way to work.  Doing this helped to eliminate stressful feelings of the day ahead of me.

If you don’t have an I-pod or MP3 player, I guess I am mainly speaking to older folks, like me, get one!  Download your favorites, explore new artists, and stick on those ear buds.  Whether you drive to work, walk, ride a bus, or a subway, listen!

Enjoy!